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It is our birthright to be assertive. Many of us learn through life situations and past relationships how to give our power away. The following are your assertive rights – a way to reclaim your power.

Top Ten Assertive Rights

1. You have to right to make mistakes

How can we learn without making mistakes? Nobody is perfect all the time just think about how many times in their lifetime a professional tennis player has hit the ball into the net. It’s about the journey and not the destination.

2. You have the right to express your feelings

Suppressing how you feel often leads to anger and resentment. We berate ourselves for being weak or blame our family or close friends for ‘conditioning us’ in this way or that. It is healthy to speak up when we feel the need, it is also empowering. Sometimes we need to take baby steps before we are able to do this.

3. You have the right to be treated with respect

Others respect us when we respect ourselves. When we have a sense of our own self worth we are able to change or walk away from any situation in which we don’t feel respected.

4. You have the right to change your mind

This right often causes confusion, ‘if we have agreed to do something for someone then aren’t we letting them down if we don’t do it’? Well, if we don’t feel that sure anymore about what we agreed to do we can change our mind. In such a case it’s important that we give the other person a reason why.

5. You have the right to ask for more time to think about decisions

This right is especially important when making major decisions like buying a car or renting a flat. At a speech therapy conference I once attended one of the main reasons given why people stammered was because they didn’t resist time pressure. Many stammerers think they have to speak at a quicker pace or the listener will lose interest. This leads to a vicious circle – the stammerer tries to speak even faster and so keeps on stammering.

6. You have the right to say ‘yes’ or ‘no’ on your own terms

If you are able to make your own decisions yet someone else is constantly making those decisions for you this is a form of passive manipulation. There is a reason why they are doing it in the first place and a reason why you are letting it happen and are handing your power to them. It’s important to take your power back and say ‘yes’ or ‘no’ on your own terms.

7. You have the right to refuse the good will of others

When someone offers you something from their heart it may prove too difficult to turn it down but it is your decision to accept or refuse it. If they don’t understand that you have the right to refuse then maybe it’s their problem.

8. You have the right to have your own opinion

To change our minds because we feel the opinion of the other person is stronger even though we feel we are right leads to frustration and resentment. If we don’t take our own power back we end up having no principles of our own.

9. You have the right to ask for what you want

So many of us never ask for what we want, often for the fear of offending the other person or treading on their toes. When we have been brought up to ‘respect our elders’ or ‘to be seen and not heard’ it can be difficult at first to find our voice. All of us have that voice somewhere inside and it’s important to find it in order to be more assertive.

10. You have the right to say ‘I don’t understand’

Again, this is linked to finding the voice within us that may have been quietened by others in our past. Well, good news – it’s never too late to find your voice. If you don’t understand something you have the right to say so.

These are your assertive rights and the key to building more confidence.

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It's not who you are that holds you back, it's who you think you're not. 
~Author Unknown

If you hear a voice within you say "you cannot paint," then by all means paint, and that voice will be silenced. 
~Vincent Van Gogh

Make the most of yourself, for that is all there is of you.  ~Ralph Waldo Emerson

If you really put a small value upon yourself, rest assured that the world will not raise your price. 
~Author Unknown

Other people's opinion of you does not have to become your reality. 
~Les Brown