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Confidence Building and Assertiveness
If you ooze self confidence, are assertive when you need to be and can set appropriate boundaries when you have to then this page may not be for you. If, like most people, you'd like to have the above qualities then please read on.
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There are three general types of behaviour aggressive, passive and assertive.
Aggressive behaviour refers to an action that is either threatening or designed to belittle someone else. For a short while aggresive beaviour can lead to a sense of power and the release of pent-up emotions. In the long term however it can lead to feelings of guilt, blame and even ill health. |
Passive behaviour refers to feelings of self pity, saying sorry too much, being overly shy and putting others' needs first. Initially you may feel like a matyr and receive praise from others. In the long term being too passive can lead to stress, resentment and frustration. |
Assertive behaviour involves speaking up for oneself and expressing our feelings in an appropriate manner. It recognises the importance of the rights of others as well as oneself. When one is assertive their is a sense of being balanced which leads strength and confidence. |
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So, how do we become more assertive and self confident?
Gaining self confidence for most of us takes practice. We may have a history of put downs and belittlements but it's never too late to become more self confident.
Take your power back
Who do you give your power away to? Regrets about the past, guilt and worrying over things that often sort themselves out anyway lead to a feeling of powerlessness.
No one can take your power away from you without your consent so it's important to recognise the moment you feel a loss of power and do something positive to get it back.
This requires knowing yourself and more importantly learning to love yourself. When you practice really loving yourself on a daily basis more confidence will come naturally.
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Assertiveness Quotes
It took me a long time not to judge myself through someone else's eyes.
~Sally Field
It's not who you are that holds you back, it's who you think you're not.
~Author Unknown
If you hear a voice within you say "you cannot paint," then by all means paint, and that voice will be silenced.
~Vincent Van Gogh
Make the most of yourself, for that is all there is of you. ~Ralph Waldo Emerson
If you really put a small value upon yourself, rest assured that the world will not raise your price.
~Author Unknown
Other people's opinion of you does not have to become your reality.
~Les Brown